tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32547457.post167836951989711919..comments2019-02-12T22:22:54.998-07:00Comments on Unfortunate Lily Maid: Be Not AshamedJonihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01621371263173026351noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32547457.post-54753469587016808012011-11-19T20:57:21.355-07:002011-11-19T20:57:21.355-07:00I never liked dating. I hated the "games&quo...I never liked dating. I hated the "games" everyone was expected to play. (I was an "Agnes" at the time of FASCINATING WOMANHOOD, and that book drove me crazy.)<br /><br />With A.Bailey, I recommend that you work on being friends first. After all, what's the point of dating? Isn't it to get to know someone well enough to fall in love with them and want to be with them forever?<br /><br />Who says you have to do that under the artificial constraints of the dating game? If you want to spend time with someone who is already your friend, you don't even have to call it a date, do you?<br /><br />My youngest daughter decided that she would not go on any second dates, ever. And she didn't, even though plenty of guys wished that she would. <br /><br />It wasn't until the right guy, who happened to be her very good friend first, realized how truly wonderful she is, and asked her out, that she was willing to bend her rule (sort of -- they decided to call it their "third date"). And I love having him for a son-in-law.<br /><br />So don't add guilt to the frustration that is called "dating." Guilt is supposed to help us repent. Just work on being the right friend, and someday, the right guy will wake up and go, "Whoa!" And you'll both want to spend forever together.Nanakathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11138862619129125182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32547457.post-13814166101604597882011-11-19T13:37:24.616-07:002011-11-19T13:37:24.616-07:00Honesty with yourself is the first step toward ove...Honesty with yourself is the first step toward overcoming those situations. I think you are a wonderful person and someday it will all work out for you in the way that is perfect for you. You'll just be casual friends first and maybe dating will come later. And the pressure from our culture to fall in love and marry early (and have kids right away) is almost unbearable. I hope you can find a way to alleviate the pressure. But I just want you to know that I think you are a beautiful person inside and out and that I really believe that it will work out for you in a beautiful way that suits you perfectly. And no pressure from me. I love you for who, what, and where you are in your life. A lot of people do. You're amazing.A. B.https://www.blogger.com/profile/04898416810018837782noreply@blogger.com